Updated: Sep 24, 2021
Human beings also known as social animals, need a partner at one point or the other. During the early phase of life, that partner might be a playmate or study-mate and later it could be for one’s romantic feelings.
While the need for a partner cannot be ignored, every relationship has its own problems. Even the happiest couple on the planet will hit a few bumps along the road. However, some issues are more like prominent knots than small stumbling blocks.
Whether you have stopped communicating like good old days or just can’t seem to stop fighting, there are some signs you should look for before deciding whether to work it out or simply break up.
Here are certain signs that testify that your relationship might be difficult to work:
You are always fighting!
All couples fight. It’s normal to argue when you have a different point of view, and fighting is actually a sign of a healthy relationship! However, it becomes a problem when fights become overly critical, disrespectful, and more than you can emotionally handle.
If you’re always putting each other down, or your arguments erupt into screaming matches at the smallest things, or you spend your time thinking about how to avoid the person, your relationship has turned toxic. And if these fights turn into physical and emotional abuse, it’s either time to go to a couple counselling or time to leave.
Little or no communication
Communication is key at any place. It is what drives a relationship. No matter how busy one is, communication is necessary. A lack of communication would imply that the relationship is not having a strong foundation and will fall down like a pack of cards very soon. Especially, if you are dating online in this pandemic struck world.
Not bringing your relationship to public notice
While dating in secret might be thrilling and adventurous, after a point, it can become a problem. A large part of your relationship includes accepting and introducing your partner to your friends and family and getting them involved in other parts of your life. Not introducing your partner and keeping them a secret would imply that you do not respect them and it comes out as if you are ashamed of them. This might soon bring you to the end of your relationship.
Little or no time
Time, just like communication, acts like oxygen for a relationship. If you want a relationship to work, you need to devote some quality time to it. Spending quality time together is one of the most important parts of a relationship. This is your special time to laugh and listen, and have meaningful conversations with each other. This includes planning activities together, playing games, undertaking challenges together and a wide range of other activities.
If you find yourself spending less and less time together, or avoiding planning activities together, this can be a problem. A lack of investment of time is an implication that someone is not interested which is the end of a relationship.
Little or no trust
“If we don’t have trust, we don’t have anything!”. All successful relations are built on trust. As you move through all the highs and lows of life, you need to be able to rely on your partner. Even if a person is not talking or able to talk, trusting that your partner will not do anything wrong is key for a relationship to work.
Distrust in the mind eventually comes down to distrust in behaviour which weakens the foundation of the relationship, eventually leading to its end. It takes time and effort to build trust, and if you or your partner doesn’t want to work on it, you need to end the relationship. It’s important to feel safe inside your relationship — you deserve someone you can count on.
No communication regarding the future
Last-minute dates and spontaneous activities are fun in the beginning, but as life progresses, missing your favourite artist because your partner doesn’t know what they will be doing in 30 days becomes a problem. What you should read this as is, “They don’t know if they will be doing things with me in 30 days.”
For a relation to last long, it is necessary to discuss future plans. This gives you a wide amount of clarity and also makes you aware of where the relationship is going. If your partner does not talk about the future, it strongly indicates that they are not interested in letting it continue.
These are some of the reasons why a relation won’t work. As long as you're aware of what you do and don't want in a long-term partner, and are savvy enough to notice any early red flags that your new partner might not be what you want in the long run, there's no reason why you won't have a happy, successful relationship — even if you have to dump a few obstacles along the way. If you too are feeling the same or see any of these signs, you must talk to your partner and get them resolved as soon as possible.